The conversation is about abuse: domestic and sexual. We should let our children know that nobody including mom and dad should be vocalizing and/or touching them inappropriately. Explain to them what their private areas are. For a boy, explain the boy body parts and girl explain the women parts, don’t be afraid to name them as what they are called. Let them know if anyone touches them or speaks to them inappropriately about these areas or shows them anything inappropriate they must tell them NO and run and tell you or an adult and should not be afraid to tell. To tell until someone listens. If someone has made them feel uncomfortable tell them they should tell you as well. Be a parent who listens so they can feel okay to open up and tell you anything that happens to them. As parents it is our responsibility to protect and listen to what is going on in our child’s life. To lookout for signs that may tell something has happened. One of the speakers said how she would pretty much cry for every single thing and it was not normal yet nobody paid attention to the sign. As the speaker from the organization ARISE, Mrs. Jones, said, “A child will tell you something to get out of trouble but never tell you something to get in trouble.” Note this goes for an adult as well, sexual abuse and domestic violence is not okay to happen to anyone.
If you are a victim speak up. Let your voice be heard. As speaker Carmen said, “You deserve justice!” Parents explain to your children what boundaries are. Tell them they have the right to set boundaries with everyone. And parents you have the right to set boundaries for others with your children. As author and speaker Kathy Chatterson said, “If someone has a problem with boundaries you set you have to question why they have a problem with it.” So as a parent set boundaries. For example, only X and Y can take you to the restroom. These are your children and any boundaries you set should be respected. Speaker Carmen Correas shared the statistic, “400,000 children born in the U.S. alone this year will be victims of sexual abuse.” Imagine that! Speaker Gwendolyn Jones shared that in these sexual abuse cases it is a far greater percentage that the victim knows the abuser than it being a stranger. So parents, please be aware of who your children are around.
Victims need support systems so if you know someone or are someone of domestic and or sexual abuse be supportive and find a support system. A key thing that the speakers did mention is just as it is important to heal physically, mentally, and emotionally it is important to spiritually as well. Healing all around is important and needed for a victim. As speaker Mrs. Jones said, “it is not the victims fault it is the abusers choice…this is not what God intended for the victims life.” Parents love your children. Be a parent who listens. Or friend/family member love and listen to your friend. Parents be proactive in speaking to your child(ren) about abuse and boundaries. If you are a victim or know someone who is let them know they have a voice. I have included some information below of resources to get help.
Outreach Office: 214-389-7700
Benefit Thrift Store: 214-520-6644
There are tons of other resources so if you would like more information on something in your area feel free to email me(contact button) and I can help you get other information.